Be Kind and Generous with Yourself This Holiday

'Tis the season to be jolly, but that’s not always how we feel. The holidays are a time for peace and good will, but often we forget where that peace must begin - within you. It isn’t always easy to let peace enter your heart. Sometimes that means being willing to look at and let go of old wounds. The holidays can stir the pot of the past and touch on unreleased feelings when we are faced with family and friends. So be kind to yourself!

Let this season be a time of forgiveness towards yourself. Be gentle with yourself as emotions come up that are not in sync with the spirit around you. Let judgments be changed into discernment, anger flavored by humor, and frustration balanced by the element of time. This will help you transform any negative emotions into a more joyful and present state of mind.

It seems as though today we are all about being non-judgmental, but perhaps there is something of value in judgment. Sometimes when we exercise sound judgment, it is our intuition’s way of revealing important information. Allow the mirror of judgment to show you what you may need to know about someone or something. Then be grateful for your intuition and let it guide you.

Allow your anger to give you the momentum you need to move forward. Anger has a lot of power behind it so let that energy be the directing force. When you look back at anger, sometimes it seems silly. Let the power of the anger move you to a new perspective and ask your holiday angels to tickle your funny bone and show you the humor instead.

When your frustration is high, try staying in present time. Frustration is usually fed by the illusion of time. Know that there is no time other than the present; it is a construct of the mind so adjust your thinking. When you examine why you are frustrated, you may see that it is being fed by something that has happened in the past or something that has not yet or may never happen in the future. Remind yourself that the past is over. All we can do is learn from it and let it go. The future never arrives, for when it does, it becomes the present. And there’s no sense worrying about something that may never even occur.

Tis the season to give peace and good will to yourself. May all the days of your life be filled with warmth and love, created in present time, by your own loving heart.

My love to you at this time of angels!
 Marnie Vincolisi