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Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Deck the Halls

Deck the halls with boughs of holly. Fa la la la la la la la la.

Are you getting tired of hearing those carols on the radio, in stores and just about every where you go? I rather enjoy it and especially when the music is sung live. It opens my heart because I feel the love from the ones who are singing. When I get to sing along, it is even better. But let’s look at how music flows in your life.

We all have a team that works with us, even if we work alone. So who is in your cheerleading squad? It is not always the people in our place of business so expand your search and look in the not-so-obvious places. Could it be the barista who hands you coffee in the morning and tells you how great you look? Is it that friend you rarely see who sends you emails of encouragement every so often?

Think of your life as a song and the people who are by your side as your backup singers. We all sound better with a little backup. Bring them with you into the new year even if they are only imaginary. You take the lead and know you have others who will show up and be in harmony with you.

Singing you into the new year with Love!

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

All is Forgiven. What Sweet Words.

Have you ever done something you regret? What do you recall? Did the consequences cause you to beat yourself up? Did someone make you feel worse than the way you already felt? Does it still haunt you? Maybe it’s time to let it go.

Why not take a moment today to recall the incident while forgiving yourself. Look at all the reasons why it occurred and be a loving parent to yourself. This is not about blaming another person for how things turned out. It is about telling that child within you that it was an honest mistake which may have occurred because of your misinterpretation of the circumstances. It was not done out of malice or spite.

Such an incident occurred to me while I was with my daughter and her family in San Francisco. I misjudged a parking area and my daughter’s car was towed. I felt awful. It took time out of my daughter’s and son-in-law’s busy schedules. It was costly and created a rift with a neighbor. I knew in my heart it was a mistake, but my emotions still ran amuck. It is said every cloud has a silver lining and for this incident, that rang true.

When I returned from getting the car out of the pound, I was greeted by my sweet son-in-law. He told me it was not my fault, there were no hard feelings, and it was just part of living in the city. Then he gave me a hug. That’s all it took to soften my heart and stop me from beating myself up. His hug said, “All is forgiven,” and it was the best gift he could have given me.

As the holidays approach, look at what you can give yourself or another this holiday season. Who needs to hear “all is forgiven”? A family member, a friend, or you? Give it now in the light of the season.

In the Season of Light I Radiate Love!

Sunday, December 14, 2014

A Simple Approach

As I sit in San Francisco I am calmed by the sound of gently falling rain upon the windows (its been  days of rain so far) and the melodic music from my granddaughter Isabella playing piano. Her practice makes me ask why we repeat an activity until we get it correct. Perhaps it’s the feeling of accomplishment we receive once it is perfected and yet we allow ourselves to become frustrated in the process. Is this frustration because we have a natural tendency to make ourselves wrong? Or could it be old programming?

Whatever the case may be, the way to integrate these negative tendencies is to be present with the feelings they present. When frustration arises, rather than pushing it away and judging it as bad, why not sit with it for a moment and observe how your body reacts. Does your temperature rise, akin to getting hot under the collar? Do you notice your stomach churning, gurgling or tightening up? There is no need to make any adjustments. Merely the act of observation will create the movement required.

Energy has its own wisdom. It knows how to move and resolve itself without any direction from us. If this sounds too simple to work, why not try it out and see for yourself. So often we make things complicated thinking that the more steps there are, the better the outcome will be. Perhaps not. Give yourself a break and try the easy approach.

In the Flow,

Wednesday, December 3, 2014


When things are not moving in the right direction, even though you feel you are applying the processes you have been taught, what might be the problem? It may be because you are scattered in too many directions. This dissipates the energy so that no one thing is getting the focus it requires.

To alleviate this problem, start by making a list of the things you are trying to accomplish. Then categorize them and put the most important one at the top of the list. Stay focused on this item. Do not deviate from your plan. Your mind will want to tell you that you can multi task and get more things done, but it will only confuse you and disperse your energy.

Pay attention to what your body is telling you, not your mind. Release your mind. Send it on a vacation and pay attention to your physical and emotional bodies. They are your true messengers. Once you feel your emotional and physical body shift, then you can look at another item on your list and work with that.

Give this process time and pay attention to what you are feeling, not what you are thinking. The holiday season is upon us and it will be easy to get distracted so make a commitment to yourself. This will be your present to yourself.

Many blessings,
Marnie Vincolisi