The key is to pay attention to the mood and level of energy that is being created between the two of you in the moment. This will give you clues as how to respond to the question or circumstance. Perhaps their energy will not support your interaction at the time. Maybe a kind word or compliment will soften their energy so they will be more receptive to your input.
Open your intuition and sense what will serve the other party and then if it aligns with your intention, offer this to them. There is no need to give your power away or diminish who you are. There are sometimes when you can adjust the mood of the scenario by knowing what the other person needs.
Stop - reacting
Look - at the need of another
Listen - to your heart