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Thursday, March 24, 2016

Are You Self-Critical?

Do you ever listen to the continual conversation that goes on in your head? I do and it is not always positive. When you redirect the energy and allow yourself to see another side of the story that's running in your psyche you can quiet the confrontation. I had such an experience just the other day.

While enjoying an evening of tango dancing, I found myself sitting on the sidelines waiting for a partner. After a few dances, no one came to my rescue. The teacher came over and began dancing with me, and we spent quite a few dances going around the floor as she instructed me on how to improve my technique. While driving home, I began questioning myself as to what was wrong with me because none of the male dancers came by to dance with me.

I allowed the cacophony in my head to give me a long list of reasons as to why I was not picked to be on the dance floor. All of them negatively judgmental towards myself. I was not comfortable with the scenarios I was creating so I opened my mind up to perceive a new way of understanding what was going on.

Then it came to me that this was exactly what I needed. The teacher noticed me and spontaneously gave me a private lesson. All was in divine order as it always is. I did not need to dance and practice with men who could not understand where I needed to change my style of dancing. While dancing with the teacher, I was able to receive help and improve my tango skills. What a blessing!

So I suggest to you today when you start hearing that negative self talk in your head that you take a moment to stop, breathe, and allow yourself to move around the situation to see it from another side. Spirit is always there waiting for you to ask for help and ready to respond. All it takes is consistency. The more you ask and the more you listen, the easier it will be to hear.

Listening to the sweet voices in my head,

Wednesday, March 16, 2016

Relationships Can Be Teachers

Relationships come to us in many forms. We have them with family, co workers, neighbors, friends, and the ever challenging intimate relationships. The Golden Rule says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you," but sometimes the other person does not want what you want. A better rule would be to find out what the other person wants and offer to make it happen by working together.

The key is to pay attention to the mood and level of energy that is being created between the two of you in the moment. This will give you clues as how to respond to the question or circumstance. Perhaps their energy will not support your interaction at the time. Maybe a kind word or compliment will soften their energy so they will be more receptive to your input.

Open your intuition and sense what will serve the other party and then if it aligns with your intention, offer this to them. There is no need to give your power away or diminish who you are. There are sometimes when you can adjust the mood of the scenario by knowing what the other person needs.

Stop - reacting
Look - at the need of another
Listen - to your heart

With compassion,

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Parallel Lives

I would like you to consider that perhaps you have more than one life running at the same time. These are called parallel lives. The movie "Sliding Doors" with Gwyneth Paltrow follows this scenario. Multiple lives can confuse our current situation when they bleed into the present time frame, but they can also help us.

When there has been a situation in your life that continued to disturb your psyche, calling on a parallel existence could help. Let’s say, for example, that in this life your family dynamics were less than desirable. Even though you have looked at that situation numerous times and forgiven those involved, the memory still haunts you and records in your bodies: physical, mental and/or emotional. Now you can eliminate the charge by focusing on a parallel family.

Take a moment to still your mind and enter a state of relaxation and meditation. In the stillness of your heart, ask for a new family to appear, one who cares and nurtures you. You may see it emerge on an alternate time frame. See this as frames on a movie film. Run this movie in your mind's eye. See the current family on a filmstrip next to the parallel one. Turn off the current film and allow the parallel family movie to run. Step into this film and interact with the members of this new cast.

Notice how it feels to be in this new story line. Now make it your original story.

See you at the movies,